A friend recently brought an article to my attention. "I read it in Psychology Today," he said. I thought, hmmm...this will be a snoozer. But I gave it a read anyway and I'm glad I did.
The title of the article was Why Feminism is the Anti-Viagra. You can click the link to read it yourself, but I will outline the basic gist of the article.
Gender equality inhibits arousal.
I know in my personal life, I don't get turned on until my husband starts sending some dominant cues my way. I don't want to go to bed with an equal. I want to be conquered! I've always felt guilty about this...like I'm setting womenkind back a few centuries. Then when I started writing books where women actively enjoy being dominated, even degraded for a man's pleasure--my God. It doesn't help that many of my friends, and indeed, my own mother, are card-carrying, raving feminists.
I've never considered myself much of a feminist. I'm more along the lines of women being free to act in whatever way is most rewarding to them. If this means submitting to the will of a man or looking up to a man as a superior, it's all good. If it means being equal out of the bedroom and inequal between the sheets, that's good too. If it means being equal all the time, even in the bedroom, go for it.
But I know for me, I need that power imbalance to really get to that nasty, dirty, horny orgasmic place. Thanks to Psychology Today, I have it on some authority that I am not alone in those desires.
The article has a couple more segments too, about the difference between dominance and rape, and why sexual prejudices and fears are bad for humanity. Many thanks to my friend Rebelicon for sending me the link!
Check it out for yourself--I'd love to hear the thoughts of other kinky women on the subject!