Thursday, May 26, 2011

Kinky Non Fiction

I wanted to share some non-fiction SM books I’d gotten a lot out of. A book recommendation was how I got involved in BDSM nearly 20 years ago, and books have given me both inspiration and safety information for scenes in real life, and more recently, for the scenes I write in my stories.

The book that got me started was Sensuous Magic, by Pat Califia. One of the things I remember about the book is that I didn’t know the gender or the orientation of the author when I was reading it, despite trying to figure it out, and that made it all feel more objective somehow, and less about the battle of the sexes. It simply presented SM as being beyond gender entirely. The other thing I love about this book is that it mixes the how-to information with some very hot short stories -- kinda like candy coating, but I think it also helped get me past my inhibitions to want to do some of the kinky things in this book, and also explore power exchange.

The book I’ve gone back to most, however, is Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns, by Philip Miller and Molly Devon. No short stories, but lots of hot black and white pictures of real people doing the kinky things talked about. And diagrams. This book is just awesome for reference. I even made a flogger using the directions towards the back of the book. Best of all, the entire book is written with an excellent sense of humor that makes it easy to read. Unfortunately, there isn’t an e-book edition, and the many illustrations and large format probably will keep it that way. Oddly, there is a kindle study guide.

I used Jay Wiseman’s Erotic Bondage Handbook as reference for Roped In, and refer it to it now and then. It really focuses on restraints, and I think this is the kind of book I’m most likely to pick up these days: books by people who are really enthusiastic about a particular kink, and can write about it to those who maybe do that activity just now and then. It was very helpful to me in writing a book about a rope expert, when I can't tie a square knot consistently despite spending hours practicing.

Any books you’d like to recommend, that have either been helpful in your kinky life or in your writing? For that matter, any books you’d like to warn people away from? I’m of the opinion that something can be learned even from a bad book, but sometimes it helps knowing that the information in it is slanted before you start.

2 comments:

  1. To be honest, I've really shied away from BDSM nonfiction because so much of it is poorly written. I admired Jay Wisemans SM 101 just for it's scope and the responsibility he took in imparting the info. I know some people disagree with his "SSC or nothing" stance. I also liked the premise of Warren's The Loving Dominant but in the end I feel like his book came up short of what it really could have been. I did love his chapter on "Stalking the Wild Submissive." The title alone was classic, but overall the book just left me thinking of what it almost was but wasn't quite.

    But then I am really picky. :-)

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