Monday, June 13, 2011

Kink Monday: Ponyplay

Owned, used, totally controlled. Do those words do anything for you?

It’s not easy to write about ponyplay without referring to deeper matters. You have to be able to see objectification or humiliation as sexual turn-ons; otherwise ponyplay is simply absurd. The concept of human beings on display as dumb animals suggests a pretty profound level of kink that is definitely not for everyone.

That said, If the concepts work for you, read on.

Imagine being buckled into a tight web of leather harness, including a bit and bridle. Imagine that harness hitched to a cart, and someone sitting behind you in that cart, holding the reins, controlling you, directing you with pulls and twitches. Maybe they even have a whip to speed you up, to remind you not to drag your feet. It’s your body doing the work, but it’s not your mind that decides how the work gets done. You’re just the engine, the manifestation of someone else’s will.

If that idea has some resonance, then imagine the arousal when you can’t do anything about it, and are being pushed to go faster, faster, while thigh and ass and belly muscles strain…. For those into pain, imagine the whip that drives you. For those into service, imagine the pure gift of carrying your dom wherever they want to go. For those into bondage, imagine all the varieties of harness that presses here, there, everywhere.

There are a hundred variations. Some ponyplay is mainly dress-up and display at big fetish events, with glittering gorgeous ponygirls strutting in ostrich feather plumes. Some folks specialize as groomers rather than pony or driver, preparing, pampering and harnessing their charges. Then there are clubs that arrange private outdoor settings to provide a more genuine experience for the participants. Pony players without such access do the best they can indoors. Treadmills have their uses, for forced exercise in the grip of interesting bondage. If the weight ratio is right, some ponies are actually saddled and ridden; very direct physical contact and control are the attractions in that case.

Many fetish gear suppliers offer some version of pony tack. It’s expensive, so I suspect a lot of people make their own. Just look up ‘pony play gear’ on Google if you’re curious. There’s also plenty of ponyplay fiction to be found on the web and elsewhere. Carrie’s Story and Safe Word by Molly Weatherfield are famous in this regard. My own two books contain it also. A great website with years worth of archives of photos, videos and stories is Sir Jeff’s Ponygirls. You can find an excerpt from my book As She’s Told on that site. There are how-to books as well, notably Rebecca Wilcox’s The Human Pony, and the online zine she runs: Equus Eroticus.

So for any of you who’ve actually read down to this point, what do you think? Is ponyplay just too ‘out there,’ even in fantasy? Is it so far from the romance realm that it squicks big time? Any part of this particular kink that rings pony bells?

4 comments:

  1. I believe I was first introduced to the pony concept when I read the Beauty series back in the late 80's or very early 90's. At the time I saw most of the trilogy as purely fantasy with little of it relating to what was actually possible/probable, and in that frame of mind it worked for me.

    Today I usually see Pony Play that is well written in much the same way -- it works for me on a purely fantasy level for all of the reasons you gave.... objectification, bondage, humiliation, being treated as less than human.

    But if someone wanted to actually dress me up as a pony and do those things for real? I don't think it would work for me, I think I'd just feel silly.

    I love the pony play in your books and in the Molly Weatherfield books. There have been some books where it just struck me as absurd though, so it really does have to be well written for it to work for me in books.

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  2. Objectification and being used are kinks that are definitely fun, but pony girls... I think it's just that the gear and set ups look too silly to be erotic.

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  3. I too first came across this in The Beauty Trilogy but have since read and watch some amazing things with pony play. Depending on the individuals, I've been the humiliation and the adoration side of it. It could be very stimulating both ways. I myself am not into pony play but can definitely appreciate the beauty of it.

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  4. I am a huge ponygirl fan. I think the concept of ponygirls is one that works better in written format, as the appeal for me is getting into the thoughts of the ponygirl. I've never tried it in real life, but the videos and pictures do usually come off as pretty silly (which doesn't stop me from watching!). I'm also a fan of subs being kept as pets, so I guess you could consider this a sub-genre (btw I loved Owned and Owner!)

    I did enjoy "Carries Story" but found it a little bit soft. One of my favorite bdsm novels is "Even Ponygirls Sometimes Get the Blues" by Aurelius, which is a very long 4 book series that is free online from the author. Features non-consensual ponygirls, and many absurd situations. One of my favorite short stories is "The Reluctant Pony" by Rilawild.

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