Someone asked me whether I’d ever considered writing about “mature” people and bdsm. An interesting question. Despite my advanced age (all kids grown and gone) my own fantasies tend to be about the young and nubile. Sad but true. I don’t even have that thing for older, more mature doms that seems so prevalent. I mean, it’s nice if the dom knows what he’s doing and is at least a few years ahead of the female character, but lines of experience in a man’s face don’t do anything special for me. My long-ago sexual imprinting was on narrow male hips in well-worn jeans, broad shoulders in tee shirts, lots of hair, and a tendency to take the mike at protest meetings.
Here’s another problem with writing about older characters. There’s so much more life to fill in before the time of the book. A person with that much experience, it seems to me, would be that much more complex to portray. The reality is that when a book centres around sex and sexuality, readers get impatient with a great deal of character development. Perhaps I’m wrong about this; what do you think?
Here’s an interesting thought; how about a “flash forward?” Glimpses along the way of the couple twenty or thirty years later? Settled and matured, with their relationship developed into whatever it’s going to be. Not the core of the book, so that the rest is a flashback, but the reverse. Hmm. As nothing is new under the sun, I’m sure I’m not the first to think of it; anyone come across a book like that?
People do like to read about characters they can relate to. I think there’s definitely a market for bdsm books that reflect the reality of d/s relationships, which do in fact accommodate bills and kids and carpools. Imagine a story in which a couple manages to maintain their d/s dynamic despite the knees that won’t kneel and a whipping arm with chronic bursitis. Would it get you off? Perhaps it’s the romance aspect that’s lacking, not the nubile bodies, so how about a story about a couple that manages to come together and develop their d/s dynamic, with all their bodily imperfections and real-life encumbrances?
Maybe it’s a specialized market. A sub-sub-sub market. ;-) Your thoughts?