A caring sadist sounds like an oxymoron, but it isn't. I know that such a being exists, as I'm married to one and have met many others. But there are also cold-hearted sadists and it is important that the distinction be clear. Apparently I need to pay a little more attention to the caring with this particular Dom. I know he's a good guy, but it appears I failed to show it.
In an effort to give better insight into how the Dom thinks, I've written three conversations so far, but don't like any of them. One of them has the submissive talking to the Dom's best friend, another has the submissive overhearing a conversation between the Dom and his friend, and another is between the Dom and the sub directly. But all of them come off flat to me. I'm telling through dialogue and it's not working. Of course, I had to rewrite the conversation three times before that tidbit finally sunk in.
The book in question stays in the submissive's head the entire time, we never see the Dom's perspective. I think I'm going to write a scene from his perspective, see where that gets us. He's a really nice guy, and I want people to like him, after all.
What does it take for you to be able to like a fictitious, sadistic, dominant man? Is it enough to let him prove he's trustworthy by playing safe and respecting safewords, or do you need to understand what makes him tick?