I'm in a bit of a bind, because I have nothing to write about that's either remotely kinky or sexy. Call it post-holiday stress, or the ongoing plague-like illness I have, or just the blahs. Whatever it is, I'm just not feeling kink lately.
I'm sure it will come back. I hope so anyway! But if it doesn't, I'll survive that too. One of the things I often wonder about is the genesis of kink/fetish tendencies in people. I've been kinky for so long, since I was a child really, that in my case I think it must be genetic. Something that happened with no outside influence, especially considering the conservatism of the house where I grew up.
But then there are people for whom kink clicks on at a later time, sometimes when they are already in their twilight years. I've met such people on Fetlife.com. They are amazed by this whole new world.
Aside from the question of where it begins, there's the question of where it ends. On Fetlife, there are many purist types who identify with kink so strongly that it is literally who they are, above and beyond everything else. For them, the idea that they might lost interest in kink one day is ludicrous. How can they stop being who they are (whether Master, submissive, slave...)?
But for me, kink has always been just one of the many quirks that makes up me. It's not the indicator by which I define who I am, by any means. For some people, this means I'm not really kinky...that I'm just...what's the phrase?...a bedroom player. I don't think that's true either.
What I've decided is that maybe, for some people kink is a skin. They wear it all the time and plan to feel at home in it until they die. For others, it's a coat they put on when they wish to. When they're in the mood. When they need to comfort or excitement of whatever it is they do in kink-related terms. When they are done with it, they put the coat away until it's needed again.
My coat is off right now, but it's around, hanging over on the wall or whatever. What is kink for you? A skin or a coat? How long have you been kinky? Do you think you'll be kinky until you die?