Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Kinky Kiss and Tell - Kate O'Neill from Raw Silk by Lisabet Sarai

Today we are interviewing Kate O'Neill, whose outrageous behavior was chronicled in Lisabet Sarai's book Raw Silk. Arriving in Thailand for an employment opportunity, Kate found herself involved with two very different men, but ended up giving herself to dominant Gregory Marshall. Here's what Kate had to say about her journey of sexual self-discovery:

What did you expect when you moved to Bangkok to take the job of senior software engineer at DigiThai Limited? 
Well, I expected to have some new experiences. I've always loved traveling but I'd never been to Asia. And I knew that Thailand was somewhat notorious as a sensualist's paradise. But I never expected that I'd participate in the sort of outrageous encounters orchestrated by both Somtow and Gregory. I saw myself as modern, sexually liberated and adventurous. I had no idea how much further I'd go – ultimately to the point of becoming my lover's willing slave.
The choice changed my career, too. I'd thought I'd spend a year or two in Thailand, then return to the U.S. Now I'm managing directory of my own software company as well as co-owner of a Bangkok fetish club. Thailand has become my home. My decision to respond to that employment ad totally altered the course of my life.
By the way, I don't regret it for an instant!
What is your favorite thing about Gregory Marshall?
Do I really have to pick a single item? I'd love to talk about the way he towers over me, making me feel vulnerable and helpless. Or those shivery blue eyes of his, like lasers, slicing through all my doubt and self-deception, making it crystal clear what I really crave. Or the way the flames tattooed on his biceps seem to dance and sway as he moves inside me...
But I guess what draws me most strongly to my master is his intuition. I'd never considered myself a submissive person. Quite the contrary, I've always been bossy and assertive. You don't get ahead as an engineer without some ability to toot your own horn. Gregory saw my true nature through the mask. Somehow he knew how I'd react to his dominance, and understood just how far to push me each time we were together.
I was shocked to discover I wanted to obey, to serve, to be beaten, sodomized and more. Gregory understood that I'd love it, that it would fulfill a deep need I hadn't even known existed - long before I was willing to admit the truth to myself.
How old were you when you lost your virginity? 
I was seventeen. I know that it's supposedly forbidden to talk about teenagers having sex, but that's just so dishonest – I can't deal with it. Love and lust are never as intense as when you're a teen.
My high school boyfriend and I planned our first lovemaking for weeks. We drove out to the meadows on the edge of town and lay down together on a blanket under the summer stars. It was gorgeous and deliciously romantic. I should mention that the notion we were doing something forbidden added an extra spark – not that we needed that since we were crazy about each other, but it gave the whole experience a dimension of plain fun. Of course, our romance ended, like most teen love, as we matured and went our separate ways. But I cherish the memory.
What is your favorite sexual talent of Gregory Marshall?
It doesn't matter what Gregory does. Everything about him is sexy. He just gives me an order in that slightly impatient tone of voice – the one that makes it clear he intends to be obeyed – and I'm soaked. He asked me once, early in our relationship, if I dreamed of being beaten. I replied, “Of course not!” - even as I began to melt. “Ah, Kate, I think you've forgotten your dreams”, he replied with that devilish smile of his.
He doesn't even need to touch me. I know this sounds impossible, but he can make me come with his voice, and his will, alone.
Most of the time, of course, he uses nipple clamps or a flogger, a cane or a butt plug, to add to the effect...
If there is something you could change about the first few weeks you knew Gregory, what would it be?
I wouldn't have fought so hard against the knowledge that I was submissive. I've never been what you'd call a prude, but I was appalled by the things he made me do – the things he “made” me want. I couldn't admit that my self-image was so incomplete. I am intelligent, talented, competent, powerful – the fact that I submit to Gregory's will doesn't change that. I know he values my abilities – in fact, we first met in the context of a technical project he wanted me to undertake. It took me a long time to come to terms with the fact that surrender to him made me complete and brought me incredible joy. If I knew then what I know now, I think I would have given him my heart and my soul a good deal sooner.
What is the craziest place you've had sex?
Well, there are quite a few “crazy” places discussed in the book. How about in an airport parking garage? Among the ruins of a historic temple? In a private cubicle of a Chinese restaurant? Standing in an ornamental fountain? On stage in a Bangkok go-go bar? I'm not sure which of my experiences counts as the most insane. I do know that when I'm in the grip of desire, I often don't care about where I am.
What addiction can you not live without?
Do you really need to ask that? My master, of course. I'm not sure I'd call him an addiction, though. That implies that my attachment to Gregory is unhealthy, and I don't believe that's true at all. Despite the rather extreme, and sometimes painful, treatment he administers, I know that he cherishes me and would never seriously hurt me.
For me, submission has proved to be a path to self-knowledge and greater peace. Not to mention intense pleasure that more than balances the pain!
I supposed I could live without it. But I'm not sure, now, that I'd want to.
What do you most fear?
As a liberated, independent, professional woman, I'm embarrassed to say this, but I fear losing Gregory. He can be moody and unpredictable. Although he can read me with unfailing accuracy, sometimes I can't guess what he wants or needs. The longer we've been together, the more he's opened up to me. Still, there are times when he “goes dark” and I don't understand why. If I displeased him – if he left me – honestly, I don't know what I'd do. I'd survive, I guess, but it would be a huge blow. Actually, I think what I'd do is try to get him back.

 If you'd like to read more of Kate's story, you can visit the author at LisabetSarai.com or  lisabetsarai.blogspot.com, and you can purchase a copy of Raw Silk at Total-E-Bound.

One lucky commenter will win a copy of Raw Silk. Winner to be chosen Saturday, April 28th. Good luck!




21 comments:

  1. This is such a touch topic to write about, but i feel it has to be done. Myself, i have never experienced menage, or even bdsm, but have an interest in it. How daring Kate is, and fortunate to be able to explore that avenue while sharing it with others. I look forward to reading your books.

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  2. I have to agree with Katlanichia, it is an interesting experience to explore. I think one of the reasons that I find bdsm and D/s so compelling is the core requirement of truth. Not only do you have to be open and truthful with the one you dominate or submit to, but you have to be honest with yourself.

    Q

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  3. I think Kate's feelings would be normal for anyone just starting out in BDSM, especially if you've never experienced anything like it. I love this books. I can't wait to read this one. Thanks for sharing a wonderful interview. I can't wait to read Kate and Gregory's story.
    Rhonda D
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  4. Thanks for sharing your experiences and thoughts about this. I can only imagine how amazingly intense it is in the moment. :)

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  5. I've never read an interview that has made me want to buy a book so much!
    jlshadden @ knology.net

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  6. I just feel in love this character. A wonderful interview!
    greenduckie13 at gmail dot com

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  7. HI LISBET! INTERESTING INTERVIEW, HOPE MY 7 IS LUCKY!!

    lindarb49@hotmail.com

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  8. This topic was very interesting and I enjoyed the interview very much.

    teemich@gmail.com

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  9. I must agree with Jodi! Win it, or buy it, I'm reading it!

    paganlady0505 AT gmail DOT com

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  10. I like Kate and can't wait to read more about her.

    ilona
    felinewyvern at googlemail dot com

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  11. Wow this book sounds very intense, I mean caning is some serious pain seeker. Me personally I like a little spanking. Lol but I would so enjoy winning this book I do want to find out about Kate's story.
    rasco630@yahoo.com

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  12. sounds good something i would have to share with the wife

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  13. It is a great excerpt. You can amost see Kate.You feel how she relating to everything that is going on
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  14. Wow! This is now on my tbr wishlist. Thanks for the chance to win.
    Patricia
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  15. Sounds great! Love the excerpt! Looking forward to reading more! :D Thanks for sharing and for the giveaway!
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  16. Thank you all for your enthusiastic comments!

    Raw Silk was my first novel and it remains, from an emotional perspective at least, my favorite.

    I'll be drawing a winner on Saturday. Meanwhile, tell you friends to come by and meet Kate.

    http://www.lisabetsarai.com

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  17. I finally made it to the website to read about this. This is a new author to me. Woohoo! I enjoyed the interview and I'm hoping to win the book to read. I'd love to win a copy to read.

    lacrimsonfemme at gmail dot com

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  18. i would love to win this book!

    Thanks

    mpashon at hotmail dot com

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  19. Hello Lisabet,

    Thank you to Kinky Ever After for hostng Lisabet Sarai in her Guest Post: Kinky Kiss and Tell - Kate O'Neill from Raw Silk & interviewing Kate O'Neill, whose outrageous behavior was chronicled in Lisabet Sarai's book "Raw Silk".

    Thank you Lisabet for taking the time out of your busy day to spend with yoru Fans & sharing such a Fantastic Guest Post & so much Intense Insight on your new release, "Raw Silk".

    Lisabet I have to tell you, you had me hooked as a Fan when I read the Excerpts for “WILD ABOUT THAT THING”, Your Musical Themed Ménage Story, “WILD ABOUT THAT THING”, for the Total-E-Bound Anthology, “TREBLE”, it was sooooo Scorchin’ HAWT!!!

    You are Truly a Very Talented Author, so Amazing at drawing your Readers into your scenes, actually feeling their Passion & Intense Sexual Desire for each other, that is so difficult to accomplish, but Lisabet You Knock It Out of the Park!!!!!

    I can't wait to read "Raw Silk", I just know Kate's Story will be Emotionally Intriguing, Decadently Sinful with Dark-Edged-Thigh-Clenchingly Passion...while you take Us on one Heck of a Ride!!!!

    I know, I'm always soooo Naughty!!! ;) But I only speak the truth!!! :) I have said this before....But for anyone who doesn't know....ATTENTION EVERYONE!!!!, Read Lisabet Books with a Fan handy & a TALL Glass of Ice Water...& change of panties is a good idea!!! LOL
    OMG did I just say that???? LOL ;)

    I would very much appreciate the opportunity to be considered in your very generous giveaway for a chance to win a copy of "Raw Silk". Thank You.

    Take Care Everyone & Stay Naughty,
    PaParanormalFan (Renee’ S.)
    paranormalromancefan at yahoo dot com

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  20. Thanks to everyone who commented. I'm sorry I'm so late in picking a winner - my Internet has been out all weekend. Yes, I have NOT been a happy camper!

    Anyway, my randomly drawn winner was Greenduckie. I'll be sending you your book shortly.

    Meanwhile, a lot of you are new readers for me. If you'd like to be kept up to date on all my contests and giveways, you might want to join my Yahoo group, Lisabet's List:

    http://groups.yahoo.com/group/lisabets_list

    And if you like BDSM, check out my recent short story collection on Amazon, Just a Spanking:

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